Wednesday, May 15, 2013

When God Told Me Whom I Was To Marry


Some of you reading this may think I am crazy, (I would gladly admit to it) but it is true; God told me the name of the man I was to marry and it was a guy that I really didn't like at the time. It was during my first year of college that God told me that I was going to marry this man and from then on, God appointed me to pray for this man. God would show me things about Isaiah that I didn't like and I would complain to Him about the things that I saw. God told me, "Then pray that I change him." So anytime that I saw something that was not becoming for a Christian in Isaiah, whom I knew without a doubt was a Christian because I could tell that He loved God more than anything, I would pray to God that He would change that character trait. And as I prayed, I watched God work and change my husband to be.
God did not tell Isaiah that he was to marry me until May of 2010 and I didn't find out that he finally knew until October 28, 2010, which was when we were engaged. We didn't marry until May 2012. So we both played the waiting game for a while.

Okay, so that was the cute little intro of a long story. ;)
Let's see. Where do I begin? Well, I suppose I will begin with how I viewed the male species when I first went to college. Lol. Before college, I had given my heart away to a guy that didn't deserve it and he had given his heart to me; I also didn't deserve it. We were young, dumb and uneducated about how we should be treating each other like brothers and sisters and guarding each other's hearts. I wish I would have known about the book I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris; it would have helped me not to get myself into such a mess.
Well anywho, I went into college pretty much hating guys and not wanting anything to do with them and definitely not interested in having a relationship EVER AGAIN. I didn't want to get married. I was content with just God. He was the only guy that I felt was worth living for. So I made it my task to keep guys from liking me. I told God that if He was going to make me get married then at least don't have anyone like me unless that person is the one that I am stuck marrying. I had a pretty horrible view and many guys can testify about how nasty of a girl I was in college. I got my wish, none of the guys liked me, they thought I was very annoying. Including the man I was to marry, Isaiah.
I would discuss getting married often with God, because during college God told me that I was going to get married. I didn't want to and I began to get upset that He was going to make me get married. I just didn't get it. I thought God would be pleased with me being content to just have him. Why did God want a man to get in the way of our relationship? I just pushed that thought aside for a while.
Eventually, God began to soften my heart about marriage as the weeks went by. The reason I really didn't want to get married was because I thought that all men were jerks. I hadn't met a godly guy my age, so I thought they didn't exist. But after being at college for a while I began to see that godly men did exist. Every meal, I sat across from some guys that had a genuine love for God. I began to reopen my heart and be okay with the idea of getting married again but I didn't think that I would marry any of the guys there at college. I thought it was going to be somewhere far in the future when God would bring that man into my life. I wasn't too concerned about getting married. I just wasn't worried about it. It was something that I gave to God and didn't want to deal with. I was consumed with knowing God and didn't have room for anyone else at the time.
Somewhere a long the line, God began to share some things with me about Isaiah. For some reason God wanted me to pray for this guy and He would tell me things about him and how I needed to pray for him. At first I was like, "Why? I don't even know this guy and everyone says he's a jerk. Why do you want me to pray for him?" I didn't listen at first. I just brushed the thought out of my mind. But God kept bugging me with him. He kept telling me to pray for him and that he needed prayer about this and he needed prayer about that. It was so annoying. One evening I couldn't sleep so I lay in bed talking to the Lord and again He told me to pray for Isaiah. I responded with "Why, am I gonna marry this guy or something crazy like that?" God replied "Wait and you will see, but for now just pray for him." So I finally gave in and began to pray for him. As I prayed for him, God began to show me the good side of this man. Most everyone else just saw how much of a jerk he was, and he was a jerk, but I began to see the good in him. I noticed that he cared for different things than most guys did. He had no interest in girls or relationships. He loved God. He didn't like talking about nonsense. He wanted to use his time and words wisely. He spent time memorizing scripture and had books memorized. This man, though he was a jerk, was a godly man and loved God. I fell in love with this man's preaching and God used his preaching greatly during my time in college. It was as though he and I were going through the same struggles and God used his preaching to tell me so and to help me change. Needless to say, I became okay with this man and he began to grow on me. So one night as I lay in bed I asked God just matter of factually if Isaiah was the one whom he wanted me to marry. God's answer to that question was "Yes." I couldn't believe my ears. I asked God again and again just to make sure I heard right. So it was then that I knew I was to marry Isaiah. 

But that's just the beginning of the story. It was the beginning of a long wait and a long road in which my faith was tried over and over again.







10 comments:

  1. Thank you for the story. God told me who I was going to marry as well. Her whole family sees how great we are together. Its not easy sometimes waiting on her watching her date other guys. This is the last thing God wants to teach me I believe is total patience and submission. Thanks for your story! Congratulations

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  2. Thank you so much for posting this. I found out who I was going to marry when I was 12. Much like your story, the boy in particular was not very kind to me and my friends, but then again, we were pretty mean as well. He moved to another town after shortly before I turned 14. It's been a year and a half since then, and the waiting gets very frustrating at times. I love to read this post because it reminds me of 3 important things. 1). I am not a freak. God speaks to people sometimes and sometimes he tells those people who they are going to marry. It reassures me that I am sane. 2). Even though when he left we weren't on the best of terms and he lives over 100 miles away, this is all in God's hands and somehow he is going to make it all work. 3). I need to be praying for my future husband and that I need to constantly surrender to God's plan for my life. Thank you so much for sharing your story.

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  3. I am so glad that God is using my story to be such an encouragement to others, even those I don't even know. I will be praying for you both as you wait on God and as you strive to follow, trust and obey Him. God is in control and He has such great purpose for our lives. He gives us strength to obey Him and to trust Him when we have no idea what He is doing with us. Just keep on trusting and keep on serving and keep on waiting knowing that He has your best interest in mind and is working to take good care of you. When God works things out for you brings this special someone into your life, please let me know so that I can praise God with you. :)

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  4. Thank you for your story! God also told me who I am to marry. Although my story isn't over, I see a lot of similarities in my story with yours, but also some differences. I kept thinking I wasn't hearing God right, as she is the girl of my dreams. She also happens to be dating somebody else. I kept saying "this is too good to be true" whenever I would pray about it. Well one day someone prayed over me and the first thing they said was "that thing that you have been saying is too good to be true, God is saying He is that good, and He will do it." So no matter how long I have to wait, and no matter how much it looks like it isn't going to happen, God always reminds me He is always faithful, and in my weakness He is strong. Thank you for sharing your story! so encouraging!

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  5. I can't believe I that you have the exact story as mine! Like thee EXACT!!! (From being in Foster care on out) I'm just mind blown right now!.....
    Just as I lay in bed and ask God for another confirmation that this guy He presented to me is actually going to be my husband, I came across this story...this is the exact situation I'm in!!! God has answered my question of confirmation by presenting to me this story just a few minutes after I prayed for an affirmation....I just need to leave it in God's hands and allow Him to write the love story and just stop worrying about if it's true...thank you for sharing!

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  6. WOW thanks sharing. I was wondering if God does real tells us who to marry. I was so hoping the unswer will be 'No'! so it happens that He told me who I will marry, which happened to be an ex who wronged me and hurt me so much that I do not want him back. I was hoping I heared wrong,but I don't wanna keep fighting His will. After all His ways are higher than our ways. I surrender my life to the Lord, let His will be done.

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  7. I too believed that God had told me who my future spouse would be. I believed He also told me that I would see the guy in relationships but that I should still trust Him!

    It has been a long trying, difficult, confusing journey where I thought I was going crazy most of the time!
    I got to a point where I felt I had to put this guy down as I just couldn't take it anymore but I struggled with that as well! It seemed I had got myself in a situation where I needed Him whether I decided to carry on believing or whether I gave up. I flitted somewhere between the two for the last few months.

    This week I have learned that the guy is now engaged!! I was kind of shell shocked at first but it is gradually getting easier.....I've been wrestling with God big time!
    Please pray for me as I deal with this situation and as I face the future. I'm considering whether I should leave my church as it might be too difficult to see them together flaunting their relationship in my face.....

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    1. I will be praying for you! Trust God! He still has a plan for you and it's going to be great!

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  8. Hey, all the stories are amazing!! I have like.. someone in my life and I have really deep feelings about him, but he hurt me so I leave everything in God's hands I know that He does everything with purpose. Every time when I want to give up on him God just stops me... I know that He has something in mind. Because I'm not sure what it is I'm not telling the whole story at this moment. Please pray for me and share your thoughts if you have any in mind :)

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    1. I will definitely pray for you. It's so hard to see what God is doing when you are in the moment. We can't see the big picture. But we can hold on to the promises that are laid out in the Bible. We can remember when He has come through for us in the past. We can trust Him and that He loves us and is going to take good care of us because He is a perfect a Father. 😊

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